Death is the saddest word that no one wants to hear especially if it involves our loved ones. However, we can never tell when death comes to anyone.
After burying the dead, the bereaved family’s suffering never ends there. There are still few things left for them to do for the sake of their dead love one’s spirit. If a baby died on his/her birth, the body must be baptized by the priest or else it is believed that the baby’s spirit cannot enter heaven and his/her spirit will remain on earth forever. For a spouse, here are few things thathe/she must follow after the burial. After the nine days of prayers and 41st day as clearance for executing necessary custom and tradition, the final stage is what we called “babang-luksa” or reduces mourning. This stage is celebrated after a year.
Babang-luksa or reduces mourning after a year means,
The spouse is allowed to marry again or date someone. The spouse can remove his/her wedding ring if he/she wishes to. For the rest of the family, this means a task completed and they can stop wearing the black pin or black ribbon as well. Everyone can socialize again, attend parties or do their usual things. It doesn’t mean that they are not mourning anymore nor had their loved ones who passed
Therefore, the entire year before the “babang-luksa” the immediate family members shall not be seen socializing or attending any gatherings. No birthday party among the family members shall be held. No wedding shall take place and no party within the household can be celebrated whether it is Christmas or New Year.
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